There are some women out there who dream about their wedding day all their lives. From imagining the dress, to picturing the perfect husband, a lot of brides have it all worked out before they’ve even met Mr Right. On the other hand however, there are some women who’ve never really given marriage a second thought. Even when they do become engaged, many of these women will try to avoid the trappings of a traditional ceremony, opting for a more unique and personalised marriage celebration instead. If you’re one of these ‘un-bridesy brides’, planning a wedding that suits you perfectly can be a challenge so we’ve put together a guide to help get you started.
Only keep the traditions that mean something to you
When you start planning a wedding, it’s all too easy to get caught up in the tradition of the event. Like Stylist Magazine says, “So much of today’s wedding convention is mired in forgotten historical significance, yet many of us still play along on the most expensive, exciting day of our lives, out of some sense of necessity or obligation. It’s what everyone has always done, so we think we have to do it too.”
Instead of simply following tradition, take a minute to think about which aspects of the classic wedding speak to you. If you’re not interested in speeches, toasts, being walked up the aisle or spending the eve of your wedding away from your beloved, then just don’t do it.
Don’t get caught up in what other people want
Another factor that can easily influence your wedding planning and steer you towards a ceremony that’s not for you is other people’s ideas. Just because your mum wants you to wear white, have a hoard of bridesmaids, or hire an expensive photographer – doesn’t mean you have to. Even if your parents are helping you pay for the big day, make it clear to them – and to everyone else, that your say is final.
Think about what you want for your wedding day
Before you can really start planning your wedding, it’s important to think about what it is you really want from your big day. While some un-bridesy brides simply want a big party, others just want a small, intimate ceremony, and a slap-up meal with their nearest and dearest. Talk to your other half to make sure your wedding dreams are in sync, and then make a list of the factors that are most important for you and your day.
If you know from the start that you don’t want a traditional wedding, it will be a lot easier to work towards your perfect ceremony. For ideas on how you can make your wedding day unique, explore our site today.